Life as It Is

Life is a roller coaster. Life is a box of chocolates.Β  Life is full of surprises. You never know what you’re gonna get.

What a rainbow of emotions I was having for the past 2 days. On Monday, a good friend from Johor called me. Her father just passed away, 2 weeks ago. I used to work for her father, doing part time when I was studying in UTM Skudai. Early of this month, she lost her unborn baby in pregnancy. She was at her 34th week of pregnancy, it was just a matter of 1-2 weeks or days more for her to expect her newborn baby. I was lost for words trying to comfort her. Anything that I wanted to say would seem so insufficient and insignificant.

Then shortly after I put down my phone, another friend just relayed a not so happy news. Her son’s good friendΒ  was playing badminton in front of his house on Saturday evening when suddenly fell over unconscious. The parents then rushed him to the hospital where they did a scan and discovered that one of the arteries in his right lobe of the brain had burst. The doctor said that this is probably a birth defect as the artery wall was unusually thin. They removed a portion of the skull because of swelling.

On Monday morning even though he was unconscious, he seemed to be responsive to voices around him. Then around 12.10pm, he started getting worse. The brain had swelled some more and was pressing against the skull. So they went in for a 2nd operation that evening. The doctor’s prognosis is not good. He told them that chances of survival are pretty slim and if he survived by some miracle, he would have severe n permanent brain damage.

A ruptured artery is caused by an enlargement of the artery wall in a specific area due to blood flow. Its called an aneurysm. Why this happens? Till today, there is no medical explanation for it, yet.

Listening to such news never fails to make me question if life is fair after all. I share the same sentiment with my friend, especially when she said that what she has always struggled with is finding an explanation for these kind of sudden tragedies. God is all about love, isn’t it? So why then does he cause this kind of suffering and pain to innocent little children? So we appreciate life more? What kind of BS is that?

Nope, the theory that God has a plan for everyone of us just does not work for me, I am afraid. I look around me and I see so much suffering in our world and I wonder where is God? I am sorry if I offend anyone here by my thoughts, but for me God is like a super parent and should care and protect us at all times, if he exists.

Then came yesterday, Tuesday. An important day for Malaysians, a big day for Permatang Pauh voters. Voting process started at 8am and I received sms-es, emails and chat messages from friends throughout the day and the topic of the day, of course – Permatang Pauh by-election.

In the afternoon, a friend told us (me and other friends) his wife was already in the hospital, ready to deliver his little man. He was still at Dubai at this time, while his wife is here in Malaysia expecting their baby, supposedly early September. My friend arranged his flight to Malaysia end of this month, on the 30th but his little man could wait no more, it seems like. Well, we congratulated him for the good news and the last I heard around 8pm, he managed to get on the flight to Malaysia and his wife just delivered a healthy 3.7kg baby. I guess he is now with his wife and busy cuddling his little baby. Congrats buddy!!

Of course, the next wonderful news (this depends on which side you are standing), Anwar Ibrahim won a landslide victory in the Permatang Pauh by-election. A thumping victory for the man that has promised and ready to change political landscape of Malaysia. Let’s hope he will deliver his words and stay true to the cause he made us believe and support. I am crossing my fingers and my hope if for achange and a new dawn for Malaysia! Congrats Saudara Anwar for your victory in Permatang Pauh!!

All things come in three it seems, both good and bad things. This morning, my friend informed us, after the 2nd surgery on Monday evening, the poor boy’s condition seems to have stabilized. The doctors were able to remove the blood clots from his brain. He is on antibiotics to treat a brain infection and fever, so he is heavily sedated. On Thursday, the doctors will stop the sedatives if his condition remains stable. They will then assess him further as part of his damaged brain cells were removed which may affect his speech, memory or motor skills. His condition is stable for now, and that is a relief to hear. Things can only get better since he is stable now. Let’s hope for the best yeah?

Life is fragile. Life is unpredictable.

Life is rather like a tin of sardines – we’re all of us looking for the key.

Life is like an onion – you peel it off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep.

Carpe scrotum diem!


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26 Responses to “Life as It Is”

  1. angeles wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 2:22 pm

    at times, life is tiring too..


  2. daniel wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 2:32 pm

    Scrotum? Why suddenly come into picture? πŸ™„

    It’s true we never know what has life to offer us the next minute. We know not of the things which will happen or people we will meet in the next minute. Just treasure the present. Good post Bong! :up:


  3. bongkersz wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 2:40 pm

    Grab life by the balls πŸ˜›

    Just treasure the present. Tomorrow is a mystery. :up:


  4. Woof-woof wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 3:01 pm

    Great post, Bongkersz. Its sudden n explicable tragedies like this that make us pause n take stock of what or who is important in our life. Gives u a whole new perspective on what is important and what is plain trivial. Right?

    Rmbr, dont sweat the small stuff πŸ˜€


  5. atreyu strange wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 4:25 pm

    great post – at a time when ANY-ONE needs to reflect on life. :up:


  6. Ashleigh wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 4:58 pm

    It never rains, but pours, huh? Ah well…


  7. cc wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 6:21 pm

    Let’s just celebrate life as it is. Good and bad, I love it all.


  8. |1f34|-|1r3 wrote on Aug 27, 2008 at 10:00 pm

    what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger…my favourite !! 😐


  9. nono wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 6:31 am

    Apa apa pun that is how the real life is kan? Hope that boy will be okay… Scary la. Kalau Tuhan nak tarik nikmat bila2 pun boleh kan? Who are we to halang it from happen… πŸ™„


  10. Extremist Thinker wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 6:51 am



  11. sufya wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 7:09 am

    Hi bongkerz,

    In the Quran, there is a verse that goes like this:
    “Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu dan boleh jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu,padahal ia amat buruk bagimu, Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengtahui”[Ayat 2:216].
    It keeps me happy whenever I’m upset. Even though ur not a Muslim, I hope it helps.


  12. suituapui wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 9:47 am

    Life is never fair, but never compare. Just be thankful for whatever little blessings that come your way. Don’t miss the wood for the trees. Btw, that victorious ‘saudara’ of urs was the one who introduced Pendidikan Moral into the school curriculum when he was Minister of Education. That’s why we have all the morally-upright people in the country today! LOL!!!


  13. bongkersz wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 9:51 am

    Oh? To think if people do not agree, they should just revamp the school curriculum after he quits as Minister of Education. Plenty of chances to make things right by then, how many years passed already since he became MOE? 10 years? 20 years? πŸ™‚ Old stories mate. Irrelevant.


  14. drumsticks wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 9:56 am

    like stp said, life is not fair. when we start comparing, we’ll nvr be happy.


  15. bongkersz wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 10:01 am

    It is hard not to compare, especially when you do benchmarking for your life. We are comparing our life with people around us everyday. whether we want it or not. But, yes, I think the keyword is ‘contented’. No? πŸ˜†


  16. bongkersz wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 10:04 am

    Thanks for Quran verse sufya πŸ™‚

    There are things we cannot fathom, no matter how smart we are. That is when God comes in, to fill the gap. It is frustrating not being able to make sense of things, no?

    Thanks for dropping by! πŸ˜€


  17. goolooloo wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 10:34 am

    My heart is fragile too 😐


  18. drumsticks wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 10:36 am

    yes agree that we will do some sort of benchmarking every now and then (otherwise we are just too complacent). and if we think our lives are bad, think about how much worst it could be. the keyword is ‘contented’ no doubt, and to be contented, start being grateful. i think only being grateful can let us see how blessed we already are now, with all our shortcomings and flaws. πŸ™‚


  19. bongkersz wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 1:15 pm

    just live life as it is and stop worrying so much then, i guess. πŸ™‚


  20. bongkersz wrote on Aug 28, 2008 at 5:02 pm

    Wise words indeed πŸ™‚ Let’s celebrate life! πŸ‘Ώ


  21. Joelight wrote on Aug 29, 2008 at 12:35 am

    I can’t agree more

    luv luv luv!!!!!


  22. suituapui wrote on Aug 29, 2008 at 6:43 am

    I think it takes a lot of maturity, self-esteem and self-confidence NOT to compare. So you compare…and you find that others are better…or better off than you…and you feel miserable and bitter about yourself. In what way is it going to help? Not unless you have the drive in yourself to strive and become even better! How many are like that? Most will just sit and be jealous, complain and complain…and badmouth people…and create ill-feelings etc etc etc!!! I’ve seen many, mostly in fact…in the course of my working life.


  23. bongkersz wrote on Aug 29, 2008 at 10:55 am

    To compare to strive for the better is okay, to compare to make yourself feel miserable and bitter sure not. πŸ˜€

    You are right, how many are like that?


  24. saffa wrote on Aug 30, 2008 at 9:54 am

    I’m not good in sort out my thoughts about this thing.
    So I wont give any comment.
    This is great post. Thanks for sharing about things happen around you.
    For me, this is a reminder.
    Life as it is.


  25. mrcoolku wrote on Sep 1, 2008 at 2:40 pm

    agree with suituapui. life need self-esteem. now i am learning how to live the moment. sometimes, although you are dong sth but actually you cannot put 100% of your mind in it. distorted. after some times, you only find that you actually miss sth from it. so better live the moment you have and enjoy it. πŸ˜†


  26. ahlost wrote on Sep 2, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    Life is a box of chocolates? Why?


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